And up until what age? At my old pool this wasn't an issue, you might see some little boys in diapers or slightly older. But at my new pool these boys keep getting older and older! Recently a grandmother brought her grandson in and he took his sweet time in one of the 2 changing stalls while most everyone else made due in the common area. He took so long i ended up speaking to her and she apologised saying he was too old to change in the open area! Well if thats the case how do you think all the women and girls there felt!?Is it ok for moms to bring boys into the ladies changing room?This is one reason we quit the Y close to our house. There were women with eight year old boys watching our teen daughter change.
All the best.Is it ok for moms to bring boys into the ladies changing room?What choice does the grandmother have? She can't let him go into the men's change room alone... who knows what creep might be in there waiting to take advantage of a young boy. You should talk to your pool and see about having family change rooms installed. This is a small change room where one family can go in to change.
It is awkward for the women... and I'm sure it's awkward for the boy. Grandma's got to watch out for him though.Is it ok for moms to bring boys into the ladies changing room?I don't care what anyone thinks of my boys coming in the public ladies room with me I would rather them come in the bathroom with me then someone walk off with them because I was afraid of what someone would think. My oldest is 10 and he does not go in the ladies room with me anymore but he is made to stand outside of the ladies bathroom but my 7 year old still goes with me in the ladies bathroom when I go in or if he has to go potty and his older brother isn't around to take him into the mens. I honestly think you should of kept to yourself and mind your own business its not like the kid was checking out the ladies in there and if I was the Grandma I would of told you so just saying.You see this is a difficult ,one i two have had the same problem,i have a 2 year old well nearly three how is not able to change himself therefore he comes in with me but my 8 year old changes on his own,by that age you have to be responsible enough to dress yourself,
as for the age to stop i would say 5-6 as i think that`s about right,but hey that's just my opion.they shouldn't be in there if they are over the age of 6. she could have taken him into the bathroom if she wasn't comfortable having him go into the men's room.
edit- think about it if it was the other way around... would i feel comfortable with my husband or father bringing my young daugher into the men's changing room at that age? I think not.Most of the places where I swim have age limits for boys in the ladies' locker room - usually 6 or 7. And they are very strict about it. This is the age when boys start getting the %26quot;eww, girls%26quot; reaction and it is inappropriate for them to be in a place where women are getting undressed. Many places do not have changing rooms, you have to change in an open area (I use a strategic towel).
I personally am very uncomfortable when a boy older than 6 is in a ladies' facility, including mall restrooms. At that point you need to use the %26quot;family%26quot; facilities - or let them learn to use the mens' bathroom alone.
When my boys were little there were no family bathrooms, so I would stand right outside of the bathroom and talk to them. If they at any time had suddenly stopped talking or screamed - well, the men would have had to deal with a very large and tall woman barging in. But in all those years we never had a problem.Mathew Cecchi was murdered in an Oceanside, CA, bathroom. I will never forget it...
Matthew, his mother, and Matthew鈥檚 three year old brother were attending a family function at an Oceanside campground on November 14. That night Gail Gerhard Matthew鈥檚 aunt stood outside when Matthew went into the beach鈥檚 public bathroom. Twenty year old, Brandon Wilson followed Matthew into the restroom, exiting a short time later, and walking right past Matthew鈥檚 aunt. Matthew鈥檚 aunt grew concerned when Matthew did not come out of the restroom, and told police she entered the restroom to find her nephew dying on the bathroom floor.
Matthew Cecchi was drowning in his own blood. There was nothing anyone could do to help Matthew, although many tried desperately to revive him and stop the bleeding from his wound. Matthew鈥檚 mother would tell jurors how she softly rubbed her son鈥檚 hair as he died that night on the restroom floor. The coroner would testify that Matthew died slowly; painfully aware of had happened to him in the final seconds before Brandon Wilson slashed his throat. A family reunion a time of coming together became a family tragedy, a family鈥檚 nightmare.
That is why my 5 year old goes with me and my daughters when my husband isn't around. I don't care what anybody thinks! Screw them. My son is safe with us. Today is different than any other time...Children are kidnapped, murdered, thrown away like used Kleenex. It's disgusting.
So, my vote is...keep our kids safe!
Edit: I'm surprised at the people who put inconvenience above children's safety. Unfortunately, there are alot of adult's who turn their backs while their children are molested in the home or other places, just so they don't have to do the hard thing and deal with reality and be a parent in 2010.Well boys 4 and under are okay but 5,6, and up are the bad ages where they are curious and want to look.Anything higher is just inappropriate because they will remember it and want to know about what they saw and they're old enough to go by themselves.It happens both ways. There are strangers in the ladies room just like there are strangers in the mens rooms. That's why more and more places are instituting %26quot;family%26quot; changing rooms. And there are quite a few little girls in the men's locker room these days with their dads too. Often the guys will just clear out an aisle for them and go change on the other side of the row of lockers.
No one is trying to creep you out. They're just looking after their children.Hmm hard question. I am sure it is embarrassing to have big ole boys walzing aroung in the womens pool changing rooms that only have 2 stalls of perfect privacy. Yikes!! I would definately not send a child younger than 7 on his own to change in the mens if theres no one he knows in there. Especially if its a big city pool that is busy. The problem is that when kids get to be 4 or 5 they start looking and being curious. Theres no solution here except a family changing room or add more stalls instead of such a big common changing area.If he was too old to be in the open area then he shouldn't be in there. My old carpool partner was one these mothers/grandmothers that bring their way too old boys into the locker room. Her kid was 9yrs old and she rationalized him being in there by saying he was held back in 1st grade. How does that make sense? The straw that broke the camels back was when it was her week to drive home from swimming and she kept rushing my 14yr old daughter to get out of her wet bathing suit so it wouldn't ruin the seats in their new car.
Of course her kid is right there in the locker room staring. When my daughter finally complained she just objected saying %26quot;oh hes just a little boy, who needs to be safe, i bring him in here all the time so he won't mind seeing your bare hiney!%26quot; My daughter was mortified!! You can bet that I chewed that woman out and we don't carpool anymore.
I totally sympathize with your situation.I would never send any boy under the age of 12 into a men's dressing room. He'd always come in the women's room with me. Too many pedo's and freaks out there.
